I remember when Kate Bosworth and Michael Polish first got together. Kate had gotten out of her relationship with Alex Skarsgard, and I thought her thing with Polish was just a rebound or an ego-boost. But they stuck together and eventually married in 2013. Once they were married, Kate majorly went off the radar, sometimes from months or years at a time. She would pick up the odd acting job or modeling job – and hey, she started some strange kind of lifestyle site last year – but it was definitely weird to see how such a promising career just… went away. I always wondered if that was her choice or if Polish was pretty controlling. I have no evidence to back that up, it was just a vibe I got. In any case, Kate and Michael are separating and Kate posted this lengthy message on her IG:
“Do you want to split a burger?” Yes.
“How ‘bout a shot of whiskey?” Hell yes.
– Big Sur, 2011
The beginning is often the best part of love. Fireworks, magnets, rebellion — the attraction. The onset signals a wide open expanse of possibility. Split a burger with someone when you are falling in love, and you can die happily knowing this is your last meal. Buy a bottle of whiskey and share shots, pour me a waterfall. Play that perfect song on the jukebox and dance with someone you have known your whole life, though you met minutes ago.
Inherently we fear an ending. To lose what you have because you got what you wanted. To be attached to the expectation of the outcome. The great Unknown.
What if we chose not to fear but instead, to love. If that most delicate and vulnerable last flicker to the flame became another type of furnace entirely. Perhaps this will sound strange to some, romantic to others. To us: this is truth.
Our hearts are full, as we have never been so enamored and deeply grateful for one another as we do in this decision to separate. Together, over the last ten years, Michael and I have chosen love, every time. We hold hands as tightly today as we entangled fingers on our wedding day. Our eyes look more deeply into one another, with more courage now. In the process of letting go, we have come to acknowledge that our love will never end. The connection does not simply disappear. The love deepens, the heart expands.
We know the 4 am calls are coming. Songs will be exchanged to communicate only what songs can do. We laugh as we plan for our next movie together and are excited to share our latest collaboration. We believe the most epic love stories are those which transcend expectation. Our greatest honor has been to experience love like this, and to continue to marvel at the beauty of love’s evolution. What happens when we reach the end of something and realize … we are just at the beginning.
This is love.
And we will drink that down.
Kate + Michael
Dang, if they really feel that way, why even split up? I mean, I get it – people outgrow each other, the person you were in 2011 is not the person you are in 2021. Maybe you need a fresh start in ten different ways and the marriage is only part of it. Thus ends a marriage I never understood and found somewhat dysfunctional, from the outside looking in. Kate is 38 years old – what will her life look like post-Michael Polish? I’m pretty curious.
Photos courtesy of Kate’s Instagram and Avalon Red.
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